Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Don’t Ever Go Into Marriage With These 8 Kinds Of Men

It’s every girl’s dream to one day get married to
that man that would make her happy and make
her life better. Believe it or not, marriage is a big
issue when it comes to a girl’s life, no matter how
successful she is or how indifferent she seems to
marriage, she wants it bad. The society, and even
families have actually not made it any better.
So ladies of a certain age begin to worry and
become anxious about wearing a ring and walking
the aisle in a white dress .In the process due to
poor judgement and not hearing from God, some
ladies have jumped into marriages that has
brought about their downfall. For the single ladies,
here is a list of men though you met them in
church or at a charity event or at the hospital
waiting on sick and deformed children or that
glorious place where only good guys go to , albeit
well spoken and wealthy that you should never say
I DO to.
1. SMOOTH OPERATOR/PLAYER:
This brother thinks he is God’s gift to women, he is
calculating, well spoken ,tactical. A smooth
operator. He goes about proposing to ladies and
convincing them, it is a special mystical
attraction, something beautiful , beyond you and I,
and for the very spiritual ladies ,it is the will of
God, only to go back on his word when he sees
another lady he believes is better than the last one.
He has a sugar coated tongue and can talk himself
out of any situation. “It is you not me,” ” i just need
sometime alone to get myself together”, ” i don’t
think, i am good enough for you”, Most times he
even extorts money from the ladies , promising to
give it back because his check has been delayed,
his clients has not paid, his dog died or in the
name of God’s will. From such, run.
2.THE PERVERT:
To the freakish and wayward lady he may appear
fun to be with, he is always talking about
sexually related topics and cracking dirty jokes, he
indulges in pornographic materials, he believes
women are meant to cook and be slept with only.
He believes sex is a recreation, and so pays no
mind to how many partners he has had, would ask
for sex before marriage and has no plans to buy a
ring but prefers a live in lover and would simply
claim it is a test of compatibility. Most of his
friends are just like him, perverts!; they would
gather after work and talk about their many
victorious conquests and if he eventually decides
to marry , getting married to this brother would
lead you down the path of heartbreak, misery, sin
and disease.
3. MUMMY’S BOY:
This mummy’s boy is in most cases a carbon
copy of his mother and is tied to her Apron. All
decisions have to be made by his  mother, mummy
said this, mummy said that, he would constantly
compare you to his mother. You would soon
discover that you are married to his mother. Why
you should also never get married to a man who
has no regard for his mother, don’t put yourself in
the bondage of having a mother in law influenced
marriage. This group also includes the weakling,
who cannot put his foot down but would allow all
members of his family treat his wife like a foot mat,
seeing nothing wrong in the disrespect of his wife
by his friends, and family alike. This kind of
marriage is very heartbreaking as the wife might
eventually lose all self esteem and worth or be in a
constant battle with her own extended family.
4.WORKAHOLIC:
This brother is always chasing money at the
expense of having good relationship with even his
family members, in some cases he may be a nice
man, but his priority is first any thing that brings
money even at the expense of having a good
relationship with anyone even God, you would
constantly feel alone in that marriage and you
would have the sole responsibility of raising your
kids. He would give you money but money we
know is not everything. Run from the workhaholic.
5.THE LONE RANGER:
This Man (lone Ranger) has issues with all his
family members , his place of work and he does
things solely on his own.He is his own mentor and
he looks up to nobody, he rates himself by himself
for himself. This type of man is one of the most
dangerous men to marry because your life, career,
vision, everything would be at his mercies. This
kind of man also tend to be abusive because they
are answerable to no one but themselves.
6.THE DICTATOR:
This brother is also close to the lone ranger, he
seems to be nice and considerate sometimes but
afterwards you discover that the only opinion that
counts is his. His words are louder than his
actions. He has his whole life planned out and you
are supposed to just fit in or there would be
trouble, he sees your thoughts, ideas and opinions
as inferior to his. He is a vision killer. marrying you
would just be something on his bucket list, then
you would also need to fulfill another , which is all
what he believes and wants you to be to him. He is
simply a dictator not a husband.This kind of man
would also occasionally hit his wife or fiancee.( Let
abuse be a tie breaker in whatever relationship
you are in). Sometimes this brother comes around
with a drinking addiction, or drug habit. From such
flee.
7.THE LAZY DRONE:
This brother is slow, always inactive, prefers to be
fed in Bed, has no focus, or clearly cut goals, has
a non-chalant attitude to everything around, finds
it difficult to keep his house, his clothes or even
his car clean, tends to be disorganized and
clumsy, this lazy drone needs just about 3 helps
not a wife.
8.BROTHER FOR SHOW:
This brother lives in the “notice me” world, he can
do anything for people as long as it is in public and
people would like him at the expense of his own
family, or even himself. This is the kind of man that
can take his female colleague or boss to the
grocery store or Main markets to buy things while
his own wife or family member would take a cab.
He goes to clean other peoples’ yard while his is
dirty because he wants to be seen and respected
by the public. You would be better off being the
public to this brother than being his family
member.
Love is patient and kind but not blind. Pray for the
right man for you and also open your eyes and did
we also forget to mention that only the right lady
finds the right man.
Written by Elijaforce

SEVEN THINGS MOST GIRLS KEEP AWAY FROM MEN

Its a known truth that any guy whose girl-friend
couldn’t control or influence wasn’t born by
woman. Girls have their tricky ways to get the
attention of any men they like. they use different
style to get noticed without cheapening
themselves. Alas, they hide a lots of things from
men. As usual, Vibenigeria.com is to educate you
on seven things most girls keep away from men.
1. Girls Tell Their Best Friend Everything
Girls like to share many things with their besties.
Including a secret that you might believe her to
keep.Girls like to gossip, that is might be a bad
news for you guys who thought that your secret
was safe with them. They like to share literally
everything with their best friend because it seems
like special bond between each
other.
2. Girls Can Communicate to Each Other Without
Talking
Guys won’t believe this, but yes, girls can create
such a secret language that is work among them.
They can use their eyes, their facial expressions,
and who knows a little bit of telepathy that only
them who get it. Do you think it is scary? Well, that
is their special ability and it is effective between
good friends.
3. Girls Enjoy Being Kissed in Front of Their
Friends
Well, it doesn’t mean a full-on make out session.
Just a quick peck on the lips will make it nice and
not awkward. Girls like show to their friends about
their lovely relationship by showing it off just to
make them jealous.
4. Girls Stay in Groups Because They Lack
Confidence
Maybe you guys finding it is so hard to talk to a
random girl since they are always travel in groups
in public. Gils like to hang out in groups because
actually most girls lack of confidence so they do
such thing to show a sense of power. That is the
fact.
5. Girls Often Fl!rt With Guys And Play It Off as a
Joke
This in one of their secret that they love to flirt. So
if you think that a girl might be hitting on you, it
may be true since they are enjoying to fl!rt but they
don’t want anybody knows it, even the guy who
they are fl!rting with. When they fl!rt with a guy,
they want to test the water and see that if the guy
is interested. But then when the guy fl!rts back,
they will just play it off as a joke.
6. Girls Spend Most of Their Time Thinking About
Guys
Yes, sure you know that girls are obsessed with
guys. There is a poll that shown about the
percentage of it. Girls spend 60% of the time to
dedicate it to guys, 15% of the time to think about
specific guy, and 20% of the time to think about
guys in general.
7. Girls Spend a Lot of Time Looking in the Mirror
Girls pay attention to how they look more than
guys. If guys spend only couple times a day to
look themselves in the mirror, girls spend as often
as possible to look
themselves in the mirror for many reasons;
reapplying makeup, quick adjustment or just to
check their selves out.

7 Ways to Tell Your Small Business’ Story Online

When you manage a small business, attracting
and maintaining a loyal customer base is crucial
for overall success. By letting your customers
know about your business and what you offer
through different, engaging avenues, you have a
better chance of earning their trust. Offering
products or services that your audience needs is
one step, but promoting the overall brand and
story of your business is important for bringing in
repeat customers. Here are seven unique ways
you can share your business’ story online.
1. Create an engaging ‘About Us’ page. A page
that explains who you are and what you do is a
great way to quickly and easily inform your
website visitors about your business and what to
expect. However, keep it interesting. Include the
basic facts as well as unique parts of your
business’ story – such as a historical timeline or
photos – to create a bond between you and your
customers. Play around with different ways to
present the information like in an infographic or
photo story to make it stand out.
2. Manage an interesting company blog.
Maintaining a blog for your business allows you to
regularly update your audience on upcoming
events, promotions, etc., but also keeps your
website relevant from the point of view of search
engines. What you write about creates a
“personality” for your business that customers
can connect to. By using the blog as a way to
discuss everything from industry trends to
company events, your story comes across to the
audience in a consistent and engaging way.
3. Don’t ignore social media. In this day and age,
it’s impossible to ignore social media, especially
since this platform is where many audiences are
the most active. No matter how great your
website is, it is likely that your customers spend
more time on sites such as Facebook or Twitter.
By maintaining regular updates and establishing
relationships, you can build customer loyalty and
tell your business story.
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Newbie's Guide
4. Introduce your team! Make your company
more personal by including a page on your
website that gives visitors a chance to see the
faces behind your business. This tactic shows
your potential customers that there are real
people behind your brand who care about your
products and services. You can even encourage
your employees to write their own biographies to
add splashes of personality.
5. Add email marketing to the mix. As with blogs
and social media channels, email marketing is a
great way to retain your audience’s attention.
Company newsletters and new product
announcements keep your customer base
interested while giving you another opportunity to
talk about your company on a proven platform:
Their email inbox.
Related: 6 Ways to Retain Ecommerce Customers
6. Produce a short video . Never underestimate
the power of a short, well-produced video for
telling your business’ story online. This is
something that could be featured on your website
– either on the home page or on the ‘About Us’
section – that creatively describes who you are
and what you do, and why your customers should
care. Show before and after projects, tours of the
facility, how-to videos, or one-on-one interviews
with employees and customers.
7. Let your customers speak for you! Finally, one
of the best ways to tell the story of your business
is to let your satisfied customers tell it for you! By
featuring customer testimonials on your website,
blog, or social media channels, prospective
customers can see how your business operates
and treats its customers. Consumers put a lot of
trust in peer reviews, so allowing them to paint
the picture of how you operate is a great way to
gain future business and get your message
across. DANIEL YOUNG ADVERTISER
1&1 INTERNET, INC.
CONTENT MANAGER, 1&1 INTERNET, INC.

10 Habits That Damage Fertility Of Nigerian Men

Some ordinary habits you perform every day
can seriously damage your reproducing system
and reduce your chances to become a happy
father. Here is the list of habits you should stop
to make your life more healthy.
1 Too much mobile phones
It is not still proved that extra usage of cell
phones can be radioactive. But some findings
showed that keeping cell phone in a pocket for
too long can affect sperm quality. It is not so
hard not to keep a mobile phone in the pocket all
the time. It is also recommended not to put it too
close to your head while you are sleeping.
READ ALSO: Expert warns against smoking
2 Alcohol
Alcohol prevents the ability of our body to
absorb zink. This element is a nutrient needed
for healthy sperm. So you should stay away
from heavy drinking.
3 Too much stress
Stress can also cause infertility. As well as
alcohol, drugs, smoking, obesity and bad diet.
4 Bad diet
You should eat more healthy food. Healthy
products will help you to maintain healthy sperm
as well. And of course a good healthy diet is a
guarantee of your general health. Drink more
water (minimum – 5 glasses a day), eat more
fruits and vegetables.
READ ALSO: Avocados can boost women’s
fertility
5 Too much exercising
Exercising is good and healthy for your body.
But if you are using some doping for example
steroids, it can affect the producing of
testosterone and lower the quality of your sperm
and its count.
6 Having sex too often
Your sperm should have some rest.  Frequent
sex can reduce the quality of its cells. For
couples who want to have a baby it is advised to
have intercourse once in two or three days.
7 Heat
Anything that can increase the temperature
around your testicles causes low sperm count.
So you should better avoid too tight pants or the
pants made of synthetic materials. Also sitting
with a laptop on your knees is a bad thing for
fertility too.
8 STI
When these diseases are not treated in time
they can result in infertility.
READ ALSO: Farmers Shun Fertilizers, Rely On
Sacrifice For Land Fertility
9 Pesticides and chemicals
All Nigerians who work in agricultural sphere
should beware of exposure of pesticides and
other harmful chemicals. All men who work with
chemicals should wear protective gears.
10 Drugs
All sniffing drugs like cocaine etc. can award
you with infertility. Also even some prescribed
drugs can affect the quality of your sperm. So
you should better consult with a doctor before
taking any drugs anyway.

7 Ways Successful and Fulfilled People Think Differently

We pay to kill cockroaches and spiders. In
Thailand, they pay to eat cockroaches and
spiders.
As different forms of thinking separate cultures,
it’s also the case between those who are happy
and successful, and those who aren’t. Great
change has always come from thinking outside
the box. Familiarity often turns our box into a
prison without realization, crippling our potential
success and sapping our happiness.
To reflect, assess, and challenge our personal
forms of thinking is healthy and necessary for
growth.
Related: Fearless and Fulfilled: 7 Steps to Finding
Business Success and Happiness
Here are seven ways successful and fulfilled
people think differently:
1. They pursue curiosity, not passion. The most
popular life advice—follow your passion. It’s
prevalent because it is wise. The only problem,
it’s easier said than done. And we spend much of
life on a frantic goose-chase. In order to follow
your passion, you need to find it. That’s where
most of us need help—try make soufflé without a
recipe.
Eat, Pray, Love author Elizabeth Gilbert gave
many an “Aha moment” recently—forget about
passion, follow your curiosity: “Passion is rare;
passion is a one-night-stand. Passion is hot, it
burns. Every day, you can’t access that…but
every single day in my life there’s something that
I’m curious about—follow it, it’s a clue, and it
might lead you to your passion.”
Her advice comes with good company, echoing
Einstein who remarked, “I have no special talent. I
am only passionately curious.” The late Steve
Jobs, in his commencement speech reflected on
his success: “Much of what I stumbled into by
following my curiosity and intuition turned out to
be priceless later on.”
Curiosity is the vehicle that takes us from finding,
to living our passion; it builds the bridge.
2. They make friends with stress. Stress is seen
as a negative, and appropriately so. Plenty
of research shows that stress causes
neurological damage and increases the risk of
cardiovascular disease.
But what if stress is the enemy only because we
perceived it to be? For 10 years, health
psychologist Kelly McGonical taught on the
damaging effects of stress but now seeks to undo
that whole decade after coming across new
research .
In a survey, 30,000 people were asked how much
stress they experienced in the last year, and
whether they believed stress was harmful for
their health. Those with high degrees of stress
indeed had severely affected health, not least
being a 43 percent increased risk of dying.
However, that was only the case among those
who also believed stress was harmful for their
health. Those who experienced a high level of
stress, but didn’t view stress as harmful, had the
lowest risk of dying, even beyond those who
indicated little stress.
Typically in stressful situations, our blood vessels
constrict and heart rate shoots-up. But the
science has shown, when you change your mind
about stress, you change your body’s response
to stress.
Another study comes from Matthew Nock of
Harvard University and Wendy Berry Mendes of
the University of California. Participants were
given three minutes to prepare, then deliver, a
speech before critical and negative judges. They
were divided into two groups, with half of all
participants having a history of social anxiety.
One group was primed beforehand to perceive
their stress as helpful, that  their pounding heart
was gearing them up for action, while their
increased breathing was bringing more oxygen to
the brain. As a result, those who viewed stress as
helpful were less anxious and more confident.
Physiologically, their blood vessels stayed
relaxed and cardiovascular response mirrored
that of joy and courage.
Nobody is immune to stress. It’s not whether we
experience stress, it’s how we
respond. Understanding stress as your body
bringing in reinforcements to defeat a challenge,
rather than being defeated, isn’t just motivational
fluff, it’s a biological shift. You’ll literally live
longer, and feel better.
3. They see chain reactions. It only takes one
falling domino to knock over the rest. Successful
people rarely make isolated decisions but join the
dots between actions and the outcomes.
To take the company to the next level, Paul
O’Neill, former CEO of aluminum manufacturing
giant Alcoa didn’t focus on advertising
and marketing, or research and development. He
focused on safety, reducing days lost to
workplace injury by 90 percent. Within a year the
company’s profits hit a record high. When O’Neill
retired, profits were five times higher.
O’Neill says, “I knew I had to transform Alcoa.
But you can’t order people to change. So I
decided I was going to start by focusing on one
thing. If I could start disrupting the habits around
one thing, it would spread throughout the entire
company.”
On the surface, they’re unrelated: profit margins
and workplace safety. But successful people
have the ability to see the relationship between
the ‘unrelated.’
Our thinking is often compartmentalized. That
keeps things neat, linear and logical but builds
walls we cannot see through. Successful people
always look for connections and relationships.
Their thinking is not just linear, but holistic. They
don’t just study parts, but see the whole. They’ve
learned to put Humpty-Dumpty together again.
4. They ask more questions than give
answers. Our egos paralyze us the moment
we’re about to ask a question. That fear of
judgment is crippling. Rather than asking and
gaining new knowledge, we protect our image and
remain mired in our lack of knowledge.
Indeed, ignorance is bliss. Successful people are
ignorant of judgment and protecting their ego.
They prefer growth in asking questions. The
inability to ask inhibits our personal growth. Jim
Collins and Morten Hansen note in Great by
Choice, top leaders of “10x companies” (those
who beat their industry indexes by ten times or
more) were continually asking “What if?” as a
means to improve.
Related: The Single Most Important Habit of
Successful Entrepreneurs
The simple act of asking questions revolutionized
and characterized the Toyota Motor Corporation.
The famous 5-Whys developed by Sakichi
Toyoda became the benchmark of their
production system. It was a simple but highly
effective strategy for getting to the root cause of
any problem and has been adopted by
organizations all over the world.
5. They contribute before gain. Doing something
for nothing is a shock to the system. It goes
against the grain of our capitalistic culture in
which there is service only with exchange. But
contribution without expectation or strings
attached is a trademark of many successful and
fulfilled people.
Princess Diana is remembered for that
quality, encouraging people to “carry out a
random act of kindness, with no expectation of
reward, safe in the knowledge that one day
someone might do the same for you.”
Dr. Adam Grant, organizational psychologist,
studies pro-social behaviors in business and
leadership. His New York Times Bestseller, Give
and Take presents a compelling case that you
don’t need to be ruthless to get ahead Techniques
such as doing “five-minute favors” for others and
reconnecting with erstwhile acquaintances can
reap long-term career rewards.
Grant explains that pro-social behaviors have a
profound effect on our depth and the breadth of
relationships, “and so you end up with a wider set
of relationships and a richer, more meaningful set
of connections.” Indeed, we all know the power
and importance in networking.
There is a paradoxical boomerang effect from
focusing on the success and wellbeing of others
that results in our own success and wellbeing.
Zig Ziglar said, ”You can have everything in life
you want, if you will just help other people get
what they want.”
It’s motivation to sow in someone else’s field
rather than just our own.
6. They schedule time for nothing. Success is
synonymous with hard work. David Bly said it
perfectly, “Striving for success without hard work
is like trying to harvest where you haven’t
planted.” But hard work often turns into hectic
work. Taking-action becomes 24/7.
However, some of the most accomplished people
highlight a counterintuitive habit. Their hectic
schedule includes allotted times for absolutely
nothing. Of course, the times of nothing are far
from nothing. Although physically unproductive,
these times allow information they’ve been
exposed to mix, mingle, and marinate, then
produce new ideas and insights.
Creativity experts and psychologists call it
the Incubation period. Creativity is often defined
as the synthesis of disparate information.
Consciously, we only catch a drop of the ocean
that our mind is exposed to. Professor Timothy
Wilson highlights the power of our unconscious
mind in his book, Strangers to Ourselves. Our
conscious mind processes about 40 bits of
information per second, whereas the unconscious
processes eleven million bits per second.
Incubation allows for absorption and interaction
between the two..
Successful people regularly schedule time for
‘nothing’ when incubation can take place. They go
for a stroll, eat lunch alone, sit in a park. It
worked for Einstein: “Although I have a regular
work schedule, I take time to go for long walks on
the beach so that I can listen to what is going on
inside my head. If my work isn’t going well, I lie
down in the middle of a workday and gaze at the
ceiling while I listen and visualize what goes on in
my imagination.”
Someone worth learning from.
7. They value experiences over objects. There’s
very few material possessions we can place a
“priceless” tag on. But plenty experiences for
which that’s possible: the new car will be
outlasted by the work ethic you cultivated to
purchase it; the new house will need renovations,
but its the talent you’ve acquired that pays for the
renovations.
What we gain materially will always come as a
byproduct of who we become intellectually,
emotionally, mentally, spiritually. It’s not what you
get, but who you become.
Fulfilled and successful people place more value
on the experience than the object. Who we
become creates much more value, not only for
ourselves, but for those around us and far beyond
what any object is able to.
THAI NGUYEN CONTRIBUTOR
WRITER, 5-STAR CHEF,
INTERNATIONAL KICKBOXER,
SPIRITUAL TEACHER.

7 Ways to Deal With an Unresponsive Client

Figuring out how to deal with an
unresponsive client is a problem almost all
account managers and directors encounter.
You have a great idea for a hook or a campaign,
or there’s an urgent piece of correspondence you
need to get approved. You email it to the client
and then, nothing.
You send a follow up email. Nothing. You send
another. Nothing. You give them a call. They’re
very apologetic. Yes, they say, they'll look at it
straight away. But still nothing. So you email
again. Nothing.
This problem is surprisingly common. Yet most
lobbyists and PR professionals struggle to deal
with it.
Here are seven things to think about if you’re
faced with an unresponsive client who won’t sign
off material or come back to you on an important
piece of work.
1. Remember it’s not all about you.
Your clients are busy people. They’re running
large companies. They’ve got unhappy
shareholders to worry about. Sometimes, despite
all your best efforts, you just aren’t their priority
at the moment. Keep at them. If it’s a good idea,
or important to them, they’ll come back to you.
2. Call them rather than email.
Some of the best managers are notoriously bad at
email. They read messages on mobile devices
and think, “I’ll deal with that later.” By the time
they get back to the office they’ve had 100 other
emails they need to deal with. If you’re not getting
a response to your email, don’t be afraid to pick
up the phone.
3. Check that the client knows what
to do with what you’ve sent them
and why it’s important.
Some PR professionals are terrible at telling their
clients what they need to do with any work that’s
been sent to them. If your client doesn’t know
how he’s supposed to respond to your idea,
chances are they won’t respond at all. Makes
sure you state clearly in the opening line of your
email whether you need the client to input
technical information into a document, sign off a
draft letter, or agree to a budget.
4. Consider whether the quality is
up to snuff.
Most people don’t like giving negative feedback.
Clients might ignore your work if they think it isn’t
good enough but don’t want to spend hours
correcting it. If your work is being constantly
ignored, ask yourself if it was really good enough
to send them in the first place.
5. Think about whether the work is
relevant to what the client wants to
achieve.
Some agencies like to generate activity to show
perceived value to the client, rather than focusing
on the things needed to meet the client’s
objectives. If your client’s busy and you send
them stuff that isn’t important to them, not only
will they ignore it, but you’ll also irritate them and
cause them to wonder what they’re paying you
for.
6. Have a regular time slot with
your client.
Your clients’ time is important. That’s why they
hire lobbyists and PR consultancies to do the
work for them. Respect your clients by managing
their time effectively. Schedule regular meetings
or conference calls in which you can have their
undivided attention and where you can go through
outstanding materials with them. That’s a far
more productive way of getting them to sign off
your work than constantly chasing them by email.
7. Accept it isn’t happening.
Sometimes great ideas and great pieces of work
don’t go anywhere. That’s the nature of our
industry. Accept it and move on. CARL THOMSON
FROM PR DAILY