We all wish we could have a glimpse into the
mind of the person we’re crushing on. Does he
like me as much as I like him? Does she even
know I exist? Why isn’t he calling me back?
Why doesn’t she text me back?
With all these modern dating rules, it’s really
hard to tell when someone is or isn’t really into
you. In the happy scenarios, you know when
someone likes you because he or she actually
told you that. In the not so happy scenarios,
you’re left wondering if something is ever
going to happen for the two of you. Even
though from a girl’s perspective the guys are
the ones that are pretty hard to read, we’re
gonna switch it up a bit and put things from a
girl perspective. So here are a couple of helpful
tips that might show you when a girl is just not
that into you.
1. Line: “I’m just not ready for a
relationship right now.”
What she’s really saying: “I don’t want a
relationship with you.”
It doesn’t have to be a serious relationship. It’s
not like you’re proposing or anything. But if
you asked a girl out (or tried to; repeatedly)
and she eventually says that she’s not ready
for…well…anything right now, that means that
she’s just not that into you. When a girl really
likes a guy, trust me, she will want to spend
every waking moment with that guy. And if it
clicks, she will want to spend more and more
time with him.
2. Line: “I feel like I should focus on
myself more,” or “I feel like I should
find myself right now.”
What she’s really saying: “I’d rather be single
than be with you.”
Don’t take it personally, it’s just that from her
perspective, you’re not really compatible. Girls
usually know from the second they see you if
you’re boyfriend material or not, and yes,
sometimes impressions can be changed, but for
the most part, by the time you start talking,
she’s already made up her mind. She’s
probably looking for someone that will make
her want to stop “focusing” or “finding”
herself, and that’s just not you right now.
3. Line: “I just don’t see you that
way.”
What she’s really saying: “You’re totally
friendzoned.”
Ah, the friendzone. A dangerous, mythical
place where so many perish, but few come
back from wholeheartedly. Truth of the matter
is, people that get friendzoned are either A.
not attractive to that specific girl or B. not
boyfriend material, but mostly A. Don’t get me
wrong, you may be a real hunk of a man, but
attractiveness is very subjective, and
depending on so many factors that change
from person to person. If one chick is
attracted to bulky guys, another definitely finds
skinny nerds to be incredibly HOT and so on.
4. Line: “This is sooo not the time,
but maybe…in the future.”
What she’s really saying: “Still don’t want to
be in a relationship with you right now, but
please do continue to boost my ego.”
Not only is this girl not into you right now, but
she’s also pretty much using you to get the
male attention that she wants in order to feel
better about herself. All the compliments
you’ve been giving her, the reasons why you
like her, the little presents you gave? Yup, she
took all of those, and used them to boost her
own ego. She still won’t date ya though.
5. Line: “I already have someone/
am already seeing someone.” (even
though you know for a fact, she’s
not!)
What she’s really saying: “Please don’t talk
to me again or my imaginary boyfriend will
kick your ass.”
Sometimes chicks like to make up fake
boyfriends for various and intricate reasons.
One would be that they’re tired of cheesy
pickup lines and want to cut it short. Another
is when they don’t think the guy hitting on
them even deserves the chance of a date. Third
reason is: when they don’t want to hurt any
feelings, and they’re afraid of telling the guy
that they’re just not that into him.
6. Situation: not answering calls
and/or not calling back
What she’s really saying: “Please take the
hint and leave me alone.”
If you’ve called this girl on a Friday and it’s
already next Friday and you haven’t heard
anything from her, then it’s pretty clear that
she’s not interested. Interested people pick up
their phones, call back when necessary, and
text when they get a chance. Really interested
people keep their phones close by at all times
at the prospect of receiving a phone call or
text, while obsessed people reply/answer
within 2 seconds of receiving something, and
usually return way too many calls and
messages back (with a 1:6 ratio – for example:
you text “hey”, and immediately your phone
starts buzzing: “heeeeeey” “what’s up?” “how
r u” “wanna hang out” “or…something else”
“whatever you want”)
7. Situation: ‘message seen at …’
What she’s really saying: “I read what you
said but I have no interest whatsoever in
replying now….or ever.”
This is the worst of the worst and I personally
hate Facebook for having this feature. If she’s
not replying back within a day but has
Facebook activity (ie: selfies, check-in, etc)
then my man, I am sorry to say that she is just
not that into you.
8. Line: “I’m really busy this week.”
What she’s really saying: “I really don’t want
to hang out with you.”
This is the case of the modern busy girl. Which
many of us truly are, balancing a full time job,
a couple of other projects and a social life (plus
family). But if she says she’s busy this week
and doesn’t tell you when she IS available
(ie: “busy this week, but let’s meetup next
Monday“) it’s almost as saying that she will be
permanently busy.
9. Line: “oh, I wish I could, but I’m
sick.” (Then checks-in at a club or
public place)
What she’s really saying: “This is not how I
want to spend my day/night.”
Pretty self-explanatory.
10. Situation: when asked to do
something, she’s never really sure/
keeps avoiding it.
Line: “maybe…I don’t know”, “I’m doing
something now, but maybe later” “Idk, I’ll call
you later” but never really calls.
What she’s really saying: “If I’m really bored
and have nothing else better to do, maybe I’ll
go out with you. Or maybe not”.
When she’s always avoiding getting together
with you, and is never really sure when or
what to do, it’s just another sign. Again, when a
chick digs you she will say yes to pretty much
anything that involves spending time with you.
When she’s not that into you she will always
find ways to avoid seeing you.
That’s just the thing. Most girls know from the
get-go when they’re into someone or not, and
they will give clear signs of that (flirting,
calling, Facebook likes, etc.) But if she’s not
that interested, even if you had a weekend of
fooling around, she will pretty much avoid you
at all costs.
What other signs do you know of that tell you
when someone is not that into you?
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